DEFINE YOURSELF BY WHAT YOU LOVE

We spend much time defining ourselves by the things we dislike instead of the things we love, things that nourish our souls and give life to authentic smiles. I had never thought of it like that before one of my bosses pointed it out in conversation. I had an 'AHA-moment', then I thought about all the times I openly shared what I loathed about certain TV shows, musicians and other subjects that I would rather be dead than caught watching, listening or interacting with. This kind of loathing is ego-driven. It says I am better than you and you have poor taste instead of, "These are the things that make me and this is what I enjoy". 

It got me thinking of the negativity we unconsciously put into the world. We are quick to disassociate with certain things but never quite share what we want to be associated with. We go around dismissing and snubbing certain things and people because we are "above it or them" far superior to being leagued with 'them'. We use Twitter and other social media platforms to rant about this, that and the other, but rarely share things we love, things that enrich our lives. We do it to validate ourselves, to give ourselves a little bit of edge. For instance, "I hate weaves" therefore! I must be more conscious and enlightened. I do not like Beyonce's music, which translates to, "My taste in music is far more intricate and sophisticated than Beyonce's Rocket". (I love Beyonce and have no issues with weaves.) 

A part of me believes that sharing more of the things we love and things that make up our lives versus those we disdain makes us better and happier people. Knowing that what we choose to let out into the world comes from a place of love and passion. It is easy to dislike and judge, but there is no joy or fulfilment in that. On the other hand, curating and displaying thoughts and actions that we love yields positive results. There is beauty in listening to a person share their passions and what drives them. It is rejuvenating and inspiring.

So curate all you love in abundance, leaving no room to squeeze in things that do not matter to you and non-essentials to who you are and stand for. Drown and express the things that make your soul dance.